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Breaking Up - Part 2

Between 2 friends, maybe very close or may not be close, they could just be friends. Assume that the guy has feelings for the gal all of a sudden.

Like I said before, the guy decides to tell her. "Hey, I have started feeling differently about u lately... blah blah.... this is off topic"

The gal if interested says 'Yes' and all is well. OMG here comes the other if. NO??!!?? Ok now wats the next step. I have commonly seen the gal starting to distance herself from the guy. Cmon give him a break he is not gonna stalk you. Guys give her a break. She said NO which means any amount of hanging around doesnt work. So give up and atleast be sane enough to respect her feelings and her space.

If you are very close friends, give it a small gap, may be one or 2 days, call back and just be normal. DO NOT ATTEMPT to talk about wat happened unless u r sure, both u and her are comfortable talking about it. Otherwise, its best to avoid it. Agreed it is tough to start with. A few days, and u will be back to comfort zone and then probably, u will be able to discuss it in the lighter vein.

Ok, here goes. What is it about expressing love that people think its an offense? The guy had an 'opinion'. I use the word opinion just because its just precisely what it is. You go thro this phase where you think a person is special to you. Hence, its an 'OPINION' you form about the person. Freedom of Speech/ Expression(This I know is not applicable completely to something of this kind) but, I want to use this to play down the misconceptions surrounding the 'Opinion'.

The girl, you will accept/not accept an opinion about a car, bike, house, etc...etc... when the guy says it. Why is it when this opinion is expressed and then asked about ur take on it... you get so offensive??
He just said he loves you and wants you to be his 'ONE'. Just say whether you agree or not and get moving along. Yes, again a play down on the whole concept of expressing love.

Life is too short to be spent losing people becos losing people takes just a few seconds, but, to think about wat you have lost/ get back or gain new people is not particularly an instant thingy.

P.S: Never let anyone GO away from your life bcos of silly reasons.This is all about situations where the intent involved is genuine. This could be vice-versa too :)
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  1. KarunaDecember 21, 2008 at 1:42 AM

    Cmon give him a break he is not gonna stalk you..that's not always true, u know ;)

    u have treated a perfect scenario where the guy is "stable", there are those who cant take "no" for an answer..ever..that is when the problem starts..

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  2. Vinay VijayakumarDecember 21, 2008 at 1:59 AM

    //This is all about situations where the intent involved is genuine//

    Yep agreed... ideal way to handle. This is more so the way it shud be handled by everybody!! :) both ways :)

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  3. SandyNovember 1, 2009 at 5:30 AM

    I DO AGREE to wht u say ...this is one of the commenest issues seen everywhere... but still at the end of the day... it makes all sense to express ur feelings towards the gal/guy whom u like... ther is no harm in saying though .. u never know for all tht u fear the gal/guy could be HOH in luv wit u :).. even if thts not the case... u can still end up being very gud frnds.. i jus dont c a point as to why u should stop talkin to each other..gimme a brk.. the person dint do anything wrng .. merely expressed his/her feelings !!!...

    P.S: more thn half of the luv in the world has died n gone without saying...

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  4. Vinay VijayakumarDecember 3, 2009 at 2:56 AM

    @sandy: all tho late.... I jus saw the reply and yup, Im glad u agree :)

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