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Breaking Up....

A guy looks at a pretty gal, hmm lets say in college, office, wherever. Now, the guy really likes her and the gal doesnt know who this guy is.

Our hero, manages to find a common friend from somewhere. The guy now takes the initiative and starts talking to our heroine. And then they meet here and there and slowly, they become friends, then close friends and closer friends and closest friends and so on...

Here our Hero has lost his focus and direction. Why did he start talking to her? He liked her a lot and he maybe wanted to go out with her/date her and then make her his gal friend and if everything goes ok.... his Wife..... WTH!!! And now he is her BEST FRIEND!! [Don ever say that again] Here's the deal, the guy likes the gal and he expects her to go out with him... Well, wats he waitin for? Whoever said 'Pyaar Dosti hai' deserves to be shot.

So this is the idea... We r best friends now... As there is no higher level, lets jus become lovers eh??? Shoot again with a bigger gun!!!!!!
I am not saying friends can never become lovers or partners for life. I am saying, if at all there is such a thought across your mind, express it right away. You are not doing any justice to the relationship otherwise, by holding it back. And by calling it friendship your ruining the complete idea of friendship

And what happens? One fine day, she goes out with someone else or you ask her out and she refuses, you start avoiding her. Or she starts distancing herself from you. This is not matured behavior. Soooo not. What have you done?? Let a beautiful relationship go down the drain in a few mins.
If you think, you asking your good buddy out could ruin the friendship, then do not do it. Its not a very nice feeling for either of u.........


P.S: Make ur intent very clear, even if not explicitly, a few inklings here and there wudnt hurt anyone
P.P.S: U should be a good friend too, to ur galfriend.
P.P.P.S: This could be true even vice-versa.
P.P.P.P.S: Please do not ruin the brilliant feeling called friendship in such cases!!!
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  1. KarunaDecember 18, 2008 at 8:45 AM

    if at all there is such a thought across your mind, express it right away..well not straight away maybe, but soon enough, yeah :)

    once u enter the "friendship zone", it gets very difficult to get out of it! sometimes for the girl, it's difficult to feel "attracted" to her best friend..

    PS: the (P^n).S. here too?!

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  2. RamyaDecember 18, 2008 at 10:52 AM

    to whom r u tryin to say wat?!!

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  3. Vinay VijayakumarDecember 18, 2008 at 10:54 AM

    @Karuna: Precisely... the zone... the zone is wat im talkin of! :) P^nS ya in order not to make a P.S too long :D
    @Ramya: It is a very general post... u mite see a sequel to it :)

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